Why can’t Texans stick together?

Posted by on Oct 9, 2017 in Family Law | 0 comments

Texans just can’t seem to stick together. That’s what the divorce statistics suggest at least. Of the about 800,000 divorces that happen in the US every year, about 125,000 take place in Texas. That’s more than 15 percent of all divorces in the country. As a means of comparison, Texas has about 27 million residents or a little under 10 percent of the overall population. So, with less than 10 percent of the people, we make up 15 percent of the divorces.

What makes people divorce so often in Texas?

The simple answer is Texans just like getting married more than other folks. The marriage rate is also higher here than elsewhere, which of course leaves room for more disagreements that lead to more breakups.

A deeper and more controversial answer may lie in the deep religious values of the Lone Star State. Though the connection is hard to draw directly, the fact many Texans are against premarital sex may mean they marry earlier. Earlier marriages mean there is greater pressure on the couple. Both parties probably have less income. Their job status may be more up in the air. They may not have reached the same education level as those who are older. They may, of course, also not know exactly what they want yet.

All of these added pressures are not necessarily going to doom any particular couple, but they make it more likely a marriage might fail.

Add to that the fact that those who have been divorced are more likely to remarry and divorce again, and Texas’ high divorce rate begins to make sense.

To combat this issue, Texas may need a change in culture as much as anything else. If more emphasis were put on a few points, the numbers might go down over time.

For instance, more emphasis being put on marrying later may make sure marriages are started on sturdy ground. That does not mean Texans need to give up on their religious values regarding premarital sex; it just means more effort needs to be put into encouraging larger courtships that remain chaste.

A greater amount of disapproval for divorce might also discourage those who are quick to jump out of marriages to try and stick with them longer. Right now, divorce is seen as so commonplace; there’s little taboo about it anymore. That is surprising considering the past controversy of that choice. Though we do not want to return to a period when people are incapable of getting out of bad relationships, encouraging more effort to be put into saving marriages can only be a positive for those involved.

It is worth remembering, as well, that divorce doesn’t only affect the two people in the partnership. Children can be seriously psychologically harmed by messy divorces. Broken homes are just that, broken.

We want to see less of that in Texas, and although it would be nice if it could all be solved by law, it’s much more likely the change will have to come from each of us.

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Child support: What does it really mean?

Posted by on Sep 4, 2017 in Family Law | 0 comments

Child support, what does it mean? For some of us, we may never have to encounter this situation or may not have friends who are in need of child support. We may even have preconceived notions about what child support looks like? Is it a rigid definition? What are the parameters of child support? Is it all necessarily negative? According to ChicoER, there are six common misconceptions that people have about child support.

Overall, the phrase “child support” most likely is not a positive idea in the minds of most. However, Butte County’s child support services department has some ideas about how they would like to move forward. It became clear to the department that people have a lot of misconceptions on what child support really looks like.. Davis, child support specialist, breaks down the six misconceptions with child support. The first misconception is that parents don’t have to pay for child support if they are unemployed. This is not true. Caseworkers will work with parents to see how much they need to pay based on how much they make or what their work experience is like. This may be minimum wage.The second misconception is that people go to jail for not paying for child support. This is possible but it is very unlikely. Davis says this isn’t happening anymore. There is now less emphasis and

Caseworkers will work with parents to see how much they need to pay based on how much they make or what their work experience is like. This may be minimum wage.The second misconception is that people go to jail for not paying for child support. This is possible but it is very unlikely. Davis says this isn’t happening anymore.

There is now less emphasis and restrictions because the department has now been removed from the DA’s radar. Though it can happen, Davis says it is very not common. The third misconception is that caseworkers get more money when people pay child support. This is not true. There are no exceptions to this rule. The fourth misconception is they cannot determine who is the father if it was not determined when the mother gave birth. This is also not true because it can happen — the county just needs to arrange the testing on their end.

The fifth misconception is that only want child support payment and don’t care about the family dynamic. This isn’t true. Most people don’t work in social work for the salary. They just want to help others and provide services to the whole family. The county wants to introduce a concept called “Family-centered services.” This means that employees can connect them to other services such as financial assistance or career services.

The last misconception is that the courts decide how much child support is to be paid. Caseworkers can’t help. This is a yes and no case. If a parent becomes unemployed, caseworkers can step in by helping parents complete paperwork to adjust their payments. Caseworkers can connect parents to a family law attorney if needed as well.

Reviewing these notes enlightens communities that it is all not about money. These services are to help all parties of the family unit. Child support may be complicated but there are jaded perceptions that surround child support that don’t leave it all to a negative connotation or experience.

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